We all strive hard to excel in our work, to be better than others, and to become successful. But often in this race to be the best, we don’t realise the importance of support that our colleagues and co-workers can extend to us. One can never be truly successful unless they earn genuine respect and support from the people they work with, but the fact of matter is, only a very few people are able to do that, naturally.

We all have that one senior level manager who seems more helpful, kinder and helpful than the others – the one who is more approachable when things go south. Take a minute to realise how did they become that way? It must be about how they interacted with people in the past that makes them genuinely more respected, reliable and supportive. But naturally commanding support and respect from co-workers stems from who you are an individual – what your identity is. However, there are a few characteristics that require no talent or special skill from an individual to be more respected among people: 

Listen to what people are saying

The next time you are talking to people from work – even if the conversation is non-work related, actually listen to what they are saying rather than just showing a semblance of interest while being engrossed in your phone. It is human nature to seek acknowledgement from others, and making someone else feel valued and acknowledged by giving them the space to voice their thoughts will reflect highly on you. So really listen to what people around have to say – ideas, opinions, and concerns. 

Walk the Talk

You might claim to be a dedicated, passionate, driven and talented individual and draw up ambitious plans during meetings – wowing everyone, but fail to deliver on your commitment. If this becomes a habit, it won’t take long before people around you will form this perception of you as someone who doesn’t follow through on his/her commitments. Being good at what you do is a no-brainer – for only then can you truly claim all the success that comes your way tomorrow. 

Admit Mistakes and Criticism

A lot about your personality is reflected by your ability to own up to your mistakes. The next time you are at the receiving end of criticism, introspect as to what your natural reaction is – defence or submission? Did you check and verify facts before reaching your conclusion, or did you go in with the assumption that you didn’t do wrong? Most importantly, how did you react when you realised you were actually at fault? Denial or admission? Consciously learn to admit your mistakes and acknowledge the criticism that you are given. 

Be Inclusive

It takes no effort in talking to the new recruit, or making conversation with people from other department over meals. If you happen to notice someone who is new, or works in isolation most of the time, make sure check in with them to make them feel welcome and comfortable. Of course, some people might prefer to work alone and not interact with others as much, and you should respect their decision in such a case. Yet, being on good terms with the people that you work with is only logical, and requires minimal effort. 

Share the knowledge and help others

The wisdom that knowledge multiplies when shared has never been more relevant in today’s information-overload world. Share knowledge and information that you think is likely to help others, and be willing to support your colleagues when needed. This one aspect of working with people is tricky – for you should know where to draw the line, and only help them with their work; not do it yourself. 

Learn when to say Yes and when to say No

An important aspect of commanding respect, one must understand when to stand up for them self and when to give up. You need to know what your limits and boundaries are at work – and how much you can take on your plate to deliver successfully. Additionally, you must also know when to say no – to more work, to idle gossip, to a disgruntled boss or an over-dependent colleague.

Show Trust in People

Believe in the innate goodness of the human spirit, and be willing to trust people when needed. People almost never deliberately want them self or others to fail, and bet on this ability of people to be successful to make them shine. Sure, a lot of people might disappoint you – but that reflects on them, more than it does on you. Do not be the person who is unwilling to trust others with power, responsibility and tasks. 

Being cordial, warm and helpful to the people you work with requires no special skill or talent, but requires you to be a considerate, inclusive and compassionate person. All the characteristics listed above should anyway be an inherent part of our work culture, but only a few people are able to successfully garner support and respect unanimously. What does your boss, or colleague, do differently, that makes everyone support and respect them naturally? Let us know!